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There was recently a story going around about a guy in NYC who was leaving business card in women’s magazines with his name, phone number and handwritten message that read:

[“I am a single white male, 45 years old, 5’9” tall, who wants to give oral sex to a woman, 18 to 59, any race, ethnicity, nationality, religion. I want to satisfy your carnal lust by giving you powerful orgasms.”]

Many people in the media treated the story as if this is a problem. I sincerely don’t see it as one.

John Westwood is a man like many others who likes to eat pussy. Many men and women enjoy the sensory explosion of putting your eyes, nose and mouth that close to the vagina. Many can’t enjoy a thrilling experience such as this often enough. Clearly, Mr. Westwood is among those men. Admittedly, this is the first time I have heard of anyone distributing flyers for their cunnilingus services, but there is a first time for everything… right?

While his methods a tad unconventional, and in the time of craigslist might seem a nigh prehistoric, I think he’s on to something. One of the many reasons people site for not being sexually satisfied in relationships is because they are either not getting enough, or the right kind of sex they want. How else do you get the sex that you want but by asking for it?

Do you really need a relationship right now?

In many ways, being single is a great advantage to being paired. For instance, if I want to get drunk and slutty or leave my head and my heart on the dance floor, I can. I get the freedom to explore and try anything I want without needing to consider someone else. However, there also downsides to being single. These revolve around not having someone in your corner when you need them or having the empty side of the bed. In my case, none of this effects me. (That is a lie.)

In no way am I looking to be paired, but I am not against being paired either. At this point in my life, like many of you, I am focused. I am working towards my degree, building a career, working on passion projects (like this one), and making sure that I am happy with myself and the people around me. I am not concerned with dating. Often I see people in relationships and look upon them with envy. I am not envious of their love and everything else, instead I am envious of the regular sex that they should be having.

How to redefine your sex

Sex has to be the most complicated word in the English language. It probably has about 6.4 billion definitions, which is roughly equal to the amount of people angered by the ending of every M. Night Shyamalan film. 6.4 billion Definitions and smart money would still wager that none of those comes close to really answering the question of “what is sex?”